keep this in mind :)

Marriage is not easy,

and anybody who's successful at it deserves a pat on the back.

You've got to grow with each other,

You've got to bend over backwards for each other,

It's alot of stuff.

Women have to find a balance where you can stand on your own so you don't lose your individual power.

"I" can't just become "us".

And I think women do it a lot. Become his wife, his girlfriend..

That's how you'll know that your relationship is worth it,

Because a lot of people walk away too easily.

But to take that step, and actually get married, you have to take it seriously..

Especially for them who have done it more than once. Because it's not good for them..

We have to go through hard times,

We have to work through them.

And don't give up to try.

First and foremost,

You must love each other,

Truly love each other in a way that's very deep and meaningful,

Not in a superficial sort of way.

There must be a deep RESPECT, ADMIRATION, and LOVE for each other.

And honestly believe that u make each other a better people.

Force each other to be better.

I think in a relationship that's how it should be.

You shouldn't be with somebody if he makes you feel less than who you are.

Both people have to really want to be there, you know. And they both have to make that choice.

And it's a compromise, and it's how you treat each other when you're hurt.

I think that's the important thing.

Because you throw yourself into Love,

So if things don't work out, you have to take responsibility.

For example :

He makes me slow down, and eat lunch. Which I used not to do. We have different philosophies. I've been so strict. His process is 'Chill, don't kill urself'. =)

copy paste from Angel Lya's facebook note :)